You see the beautiful girl and you stare. At some point you will make eye contact with her.

1. Smile!

This will show her you are confident. It will also show her the most attractive version of yourself. Women are much more attractive when they are smiling; the same is true for men.

Next approach her, say \”Hi I am _____\”, smile again and extend your hand. Most women will shake your hand and tell you who they are but if she doesn\’t keep moving forward.

The next step is to ask her about herself, for example:

- Where are you from?

- What do you do?

You can also use a current event for example:

- Did you hear about ______?

2. Follow up questions

It\’s not enough to just ask her where she is from. You must follow it up with 2 – 3 questions to show you are genuinely interested. So for example she says \”Yes, I\’m from here.\”

You can say \”O really, so all your family lives here?\” Or \”Do you plan to stay here or do you want to move away?\” My point is when a girl answers a question she will give you material for more follow up questions.

You should ask her 2 – 3 follow up questions and then answer your own questions. So using the same example lets say she says \”Yes, all my family lives here. I have a younger sister.\”

You could say \”Yea, I moved out here a few years ago from New York, I have two brothers back there.\” This will help her feel like she is getting to know you. And you are getting to know her.

3. All it takes is 1 – 5 minutes of conversation and you can close. In your closing you must say either:

- Do you want to get a cup of coffee sometime?

Or

- Do you want to get together sometime?

The reason you don\’t ask her to dinner and a movie on a first date is because that is a lot of pressure. You have only talked to her for a few minutes and you don\’t really know her. Instead with these two closings you are really just asking her if she is interested in you.

Lastly, you must expect some rejection. This happens for all sorts of reasons. One thing that helps me when this happens is I will say to myself \”Don\’t chase her just replace her.\”

I know this sounds callous but it\’s just one girl. There are a lot of women in the world. Further, sometimes it doesn\’t matter who you are or what you say she is not going to be interested in anyone right now. So don\’t beat yourself up or think too much about it and move forward.

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I recently went on a first date with a woman. Things seemed to be going pretty well but when I leaned into kiss her, she said she doesn\’t kiss on a first date. I am sure she is not the first or the last woman to say this.

What Does This Mean?

Fortunately for me, it meant nothing because shortly there after she did kiss me. However we did talk about it a little while later and her claim was that if a guy was willing to go out with her again just for a kiss then she knew he was genuinely interested. I do understand this and for me personally it was to some extent attractive because I knew she was likely not an easy girl. Also she quickly backed her claim up with the fact that most men will still have sex with a woman regardless of their interest.

While this is true, I explained to her that typically I would take a rejection of a first kiss as a bad sign. Because it does not always mean just that (no kiss on a first date), unfortunately it is not uncommon for women to lie to men. Look no farther than when women tell men \”we are too good of friends to date.\” This comment is not entirely true, and is often instead said to avoid having to tell a guy that she is not interested.

I also told her that I am a firm believer in kissing on a first date. I figure if I am willing to go out with you on a second date then I am willing to kiss you. Additionally I have been told those crushing words from a woman \”that we were too good of friends to date.\” I believe that commonly those words are said when a man waits to long.

In other words at one point the woman was interested in him and was willing to kiss him, however he simply waited to long. She either moved on, or was forced out of necessity to think of him just as a friend. I say out of necessity to protect her feelings.

In our society it is clear that men are required to initiate every thing, at least 98% of the time. Put yourself in her shoes, she has a crush on you however you keep dragging your feet on actually trying to kiss her. Thus, can you blame her for moving on and assuming you are just a friend after so long?

I encourage you to always kiss on a first date, especially if you are genuinely interested in her. It will avoid the possibility of you being classified as \’too good of a friend.\’ And it is fun to kiss girls!

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